While young children are dogs ... loyal and affectionate ... teenagers are cats.
It's so easy to be a dog owner. You feed it, train it, boss it around. It
puts its head on your knee and gazes at you as if you were a Rembrandt
painting. It bounds indoors with enthusiasm when you call it.
Then around age 13, your adoring little puppy turns into a big old cat.
When you tell it to come inside, it looks amazed, as if wondering who
died and made you emperor. Instead of dogging your doorstep, it
disappears. You won't see it again until it gets hungry ... then it
pauses on its sprint through the kitchen long enough to turn its nose up
at whatever you're serving. When you reach out to ruffle its head, in
that old affectionate gesture, it twists away from you then gives you a
blank stare, as if trying to remember where it has seen you before.
You, not realizing that the dog is now a cat, think something must be
desperately wrong with it. It seems so antisocial, so distant, sort of
depressed. It won't go on family outings. Since you're the one who raised
it, taught it to fetch and stay and sit on command, you assume that you
did something wrong. Flooded with guilt and fear, you redouble your
efforts to make your pet behave.
Only now you're dealing with a cat, so everything that worked before now
produces the opposite of the desired result. Call it and it runs away.
Tell it to sit and it jumps on the counter. The more you go toward it,
wringing your hands, the more it moves away.
Instead of continuing to act like a dog owner, you must learn to behave
ike a cat owner. Put a dish of food near the door and let it come to
you. But remember that a cat needs your help and your affection too. Sit
still and it will come, seeking that warm, comforting lap it has not
entirely forgotten. Be there to open the door for it.
One day your grown-up child will walk into the kitchen, give you a big
kiss and say, "You've been on your feet all day. Let me get those dishes
for you."
Then you'll realize your cat is a dog again!
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Thanks to Nidhi
Thanks to all the Aunt Lydias
8 hours ago
Ha Ha, funny but very insightful. Wonderfully written, enjoyed it very much.
ReplyDeleteThank you Capt. This post was appreciated by many parents struggling with their teenagers, wondering where they went wrong. I enjoy your blog too. Keep writing about your travels
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